Healing From Ectopic Pregnancy

Healing From Ectopic Pregnancy

Have you suffered a pregnancy loss due to an ectopic pregnancy? If so, you are not alone, 2% of all pregnancies are ectopic. Women who have experienced ectopic pregnancy often suffer from tissue damage; this may lead to infertility, and a 7-15% chance of recurrence due to scarring and adhesion in the fallopian tubes. Not only is ectopic pregnancy damaging to the tissues, it can be emotionally scarring as well.

Ectopic pregnancy can be very physically painful, scary, and in some women may lead to hemorrhage potentially resulting in death. All of this may create fear for future pregnancy. Ectopic pregnancy is not something to be taken lightly. Often times women are very excited to be pregnant, only to find out that they have an ectopic pregnancy and that this pregnancy is not viable; this can be a devastating loss.

If you are one of those women who have suffered damage, physically or emotionally from ectopic pregnancy, this article is for you! I will share with you ways to heal your body physically and emotionally from ectopic pregnancy. But before we begin all of that I believe it is important to share with you factors that may put you at risk for ectopic pregnancy, so that we can learn ways to prevent ectopic pregnancy.

Causes and Possible Prevention of Ectopic Pregnancy

Sexually Transmitted Infection
Sexually transmitted disease, especially Chlamydia and Gonorrhea can lead to Pelvic Inflammatory Disease (PID). If left untreated this may cause scar tissue, adhesion and chronic inflammation in the fallopian tubes and uterus. Use protection such as condoms during sexual intercourse, especially with new partners to help prevent STI’s.

Tubal Sterilization Reversal
This is a common birth control method for women who thought they were done having children. More and more women are deciding otherwise and having tubal reversal procedures. Because the fallopian tubes were cut and cauterized initially, then snipped again and sewn back together, this may cause scar tissue, which may narrow or block the tubes. Any type of tubal sterilization poses a risk for ectopic pregnancy, even if you do not want children and have not had a tubal reversal. Of all the unsuccessful tubal ligation procedures that resulted in pregnancy, about 50% resulted in ectopic pregnancy.

Cesarean Section
Subsequent pregnancies are at risk for ectopic pregnancy following a C-section. This is due to increased risk of scar tissue formation around the reproductive organs which may damage the fallopian tubes.

Surgery to Open Blocked Fallopian Tubes
Women who have already been diagnosed with blocked fallopian tubes can choose to have surgical procedures to re-open them; but these procedures may lead to the development of more scar tissue and adhesion.

Low Progesterone
A study conducted by Dr. Buckley (Ann Emerg Med., 8/2000) revealed that low progesterone levels in pregnant women may potentially indicate an ectopic pregnancy. Results of the study showed that all the women who experienced ectopic pregnancy had progesterone levels below 22ng/ml. Of all the women whose progesterone levels were below 22 ng/ml, 10% resulted in ectopic pregnancy BUT none of the patients with progesterone levels above 22 mg/ml had a pregnancy resulting in ectopic implantation.

Other research shows that progesterone plays an important role in the function of the fallopian tubes. Specialized cells within the fallopian tubes, called peg cells produce tubular fluid influenced by an increase in progesterone. This fluid is necessary to move the sperm to the ova (egg), nourish both the ova and the sperm and then to help move the fertilized ovum (zygote) along with the cilia (hair like cells within the fallopian tubes) to the uterus for implantation. A failure in proper movement of the fallopian tube may possibly result in ectopic pregnancy.

Progesterone level testing prior to pregnancy may help doctors identify a potential red flag for the development of an ectopic pregnancy in their patients. Should one find that her progesterone levels are low, natural progesterone cream supplementation may be something to look into. Bio-identical progesterone cream supplementation is a natural way to increase progesterone levels to make sure they are at the right level to sustain a pregnancy and hopefully avoid an ectopic pregnancy.

Smoking
Smoking cigarettes has been linked to 5 times greater risk for ectopic pregnancy. Holy Smokes! In some women it has been shown that under the influence of nicotine the fallopian tubes contract and spasm. During the spasm the walls of the fallopian tubes collapse and then temporarily stick together, preventing the embryo from passing through for implantation in the uterus.

Fertility Medications
Fertility medications including clomiphene citrate (Clomid), pergonal and progestin (common in hormonal birth control) put a woman at risk for ectopic pregnancy by altering the ability of the fallopian tube to contract and move the fertilized egg to the uterus. If you become pregnant while on one of these medications, talk to your doctor right away to rule out ectopic pregnancy.

What Happens During an Ectopic Pregnancy?

What is an Ectopic Pregnancy?

The most common place for an ectopic pregnancy to occur is inside of the fallopian tubes. Some ectopic pregnancies may occur in the abdominal cavity, cervix or ovary; this is very rare. In all cases the fetus begins to grow where it should not be.

Normally during conception the embryo, in the form of rapidly dividing cells moves from the fallopian tubes down to the uterus for implantation. Because the most common place for this to occur is the fallopian tubes, I will concentrate on that type of ectopic pregnancy. 95% of all ectopic pregnancies happen in the fallopian tubes. 50% of all ectopic pregnancies in the fallopian tube are caused by damage to the fallopian tubes; the other 50% the cause is unknown.

The embryo begins to grow and form in the fallopian tube. This puts extreme pressure on the fallopian tube. This may cause discomfort to extreme pain. Some women may not even know they have this type of pregnancy until they experience pain or it is discovered by ultrasound.

If you are pregnant and feel slight lower abdominal pain on one side or have some blood loss (spotting), and this is not normal for you, seek medical attention to rule out ectopic pregnancy. If this type of pregnancy is left undiagnosed it may lead to the fallopian tube rupturing, this is extremely dangerous as it can cause hemorrhage and death.

Often when this happens the ovary is damaged as well, and both the fallopian tube and ovary are removed surgically. The pain from fallopian tube rupture can be so extreme a woman may vomit or pass out. If you feel you are experiencing an ectopic pregnancy, or rupture of the fallopian tube, seek emergency medical care right away.

If the ectopic pregnancy is diagnosed right away, doctors can treat it with the chemotherapy drug called Methotrexate. This medication dissolves the embryo and your body reabsorbs it. If you have used this medication for an ectopic pregnancy, you may seriously want to consider doing a Fertility Cleanse. The Fertility Cleanse may help clear the body of the medication prior to trying to conceive again.

Even if the fallopian tube has not ruptured, the embryo may be further along and will require surgical removal to prevent rupture. The stretching of the fallopian tube alone can create severe damage to the fallopian tube. Your doctor may determine this during surgery.

Healing Scar Tissue and Adhesion While Reducing Inflammation

Whether you are wanting to prevent an ectopic pregnancy, heal blocked fallopian tubes, or heal from a past or recent ectopic pregnancy, you will want to plan ahead to allow for proper healing to take place.

If you recently had an ectopic pregnancy, give your body 2 weeks before beginning any of these therapies or herbs. Listen to your body. If you are still tender physically from surgery or damage, give your body more time to heal on its own. Beginning Self Fertility Massage may take more time before beginning. In the mean time you can begin counseling or energy body work like Reiki or acupuncture to begin healing right away.

Note: This program is very similar to our Blocked Fallopian Tubes guide.

Systemic Enzyme Therapy
This is one of the most effective ways to reduce and remove scar tissue and adhesion, while reducing inflammation and increasing healthy circulation. Specific enzymes in this therapy eat away scar tissue (fibrin) over time, aiding the body in preventing excessive scar tissue buildup, while removing old scar tissue and adhesion. When there has been damage to the reproductive organs or surrounding tissues, chronic inflammation may be present as your body works to heal. Systemic Enzyme Therapy may help reduce inflammation, while aiding the body in healthy inflammation response. This therapy works extremely well when combined with Self Fertility Massage and Castor Oil Packs.

Abdominal or Fertility Massage
Massage is another natural therapy that helps to support general fallopian tube health. Massage helps to increase circulation and break adhesions in a non-intrusive way. Whenever there is damage to the fallopian tubes, fertility massage is recommended!

This type of massage may help aid the body in breaking up old scar tissue formation, promoting healing of the reproductive organs, while loosening tight and twisted tissues. The increased circulation aids in tissue elimination, while at the same time bringing in fresh blood to promote healing.

Fertility MassageDamage from ectopic pregnancy may cause adhesion, where the tissues of the reproductive organs attach to other parts of the surrounding muscles or tissues in the body, this can pull the organs of the reproductive system out of alignment. Massage may help to reposition the reproductive organs for proper function.

Massage can also assist healing from emotional trauma, helping a woman who has suffered a pregnancy loss and physical pain to her reproductive system. It does this by teaching you how to connect with your reproductive system once again. It is giving you a time to take part in your healing process. When doing your massage session, take time to pray, visualize, or bless that area of your body. Directly physically connecting to your fertility is very important when working toward healing. Listen to your body, it has wisdom beyond belief.

There are three options for massage when it comes to supporting the reproductive system. You can find a massage therapist who specializes in abdominal or fertility massage such as a Maya Abdominal Massage Therapist, visit a center like Clear Passages or you can learn how to apply Self Fertility Massage at home.

1. The Arvigo Technique of Maya Abdominal Massage™
Developed by Dr. Rosita Arvigo, this holistic pelvic care approach uses techniques taught to Dr. Avigo by her mentor Don Elijio Panti, who was a Mayan Shaman in Belize, Central America. Dr. Arvigo spent 10 years learning these ancient massage techniques. Thousands of practitioners around the world are trained and perform Maya Abdominal Massage™ in their clinics.

This type of massage has been found to work to loosen and aid the body in removal of old scar tissue and adhesion formation, which may be causing the reproductive organs to become stuck together, or to other parts of the internal body.

One session, depending on the amount of time spent costs anywhere from $70 to $100 per session. Prices may vary depending on the practitioner.

2. Clear Passages Therapy
Clear Passages uses hands-on physical therapy techniques known as the Wurn Technique to unblock fallopian tubes. This technique is done without the use of drugs or surgery. There are many studies proving success of this technique for naturally unblocking the fallopian tubes. They have clinics in 6 locations in the United States and two in the United Kingdom where women from all over the world travel to be treated.

According to a study published in Alternative Therapies in Health and Medicine (2008), the Wurn Technique had a 61% success rate in opening blocked fallopian tubes that were totally blocked. The results of this therapy last many years in most cases, as compared to surgical procedures which usually regrow scar tissue and cause the fallopian tube/s to become blocked once again in approximately 6 months of the surgical procedure.

Clear Passages has success with their techniques in opening blocked fallopian tubes in women with…

  • two completely blocked fallopian tubes
  • one blocked fallopian tube, one tube previously removed
  • hydrosalpinx (fluid filled tube)
  • distal end blockage (distal tubal occlusion, end near ovary)

The average cost of a 20 hour Clear Passages therapy session is $5,200.

3. Self Fertility Massage™
Self Fertility Massage is a series of massage techniques that are used to help support reproductive health, the menstrual cycle, and your fertility all from the comfort of your own home! This type of massage is easy to learn, perform and is cost effective!

One of the greatest benefits of massage is the ability to break up adhesions. Adhesions are comprised of scar tissue. These adhesions are what cause the fallopian tubes to become blocked, stuck together, stuck to other parts of the reproductive organs or other internal tissues of the body. Self Fertility Massage gently helps to break up adhesions and increase circulation to detoxify and restore optimal function to the reproductive organs, including the fallopian tubes. Massage provides a great non-intrusive option for women with blocked fallopian tubes.

“ I would strongly recommend deep tissue massage such as Maya abdominal massage for any woman who has had a history of tubal infection, tubal surgery, or ectopic pregnancy. That’s because this technique might well be able to help prevent or eliminate the tubal adhesions that favor a future ectopic pregnancy.”- Christiane Northrup, M.D. Author of Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom

Castor Oil Packs
Castor Oil packs promote healing to the reproductive system, by stimulating circulation and triggering the lymphatic system. The lymphatic system is responsible for removing metabolic waste, old diseased cells and tissues. This is very important, especially if your ectopic pregnancy may have been caused by Sexually Transmitted Disease (STD), infection from past surgery, endometriosis, uterine fibroids, ovarian cysts or PID.

Castor oil is one of the only ways to stimulate the lymphatic system. Within the lymphatic system is a fluid called lymph and this system relies on us to get it to move. The heart runs our circulatory system, but the lymphatic system doesn’t have a pump like the circulatory system has in the heart. Exercise, dry brushing, some herbs and Castor Oil are some of the only ways to get the lymph to move. Castor Oil Packs heal underlying tissues very well, when used consistently over time. This therapy works great in conjunction with any type of fertility or abdominal massage therapy including Self Fertility Massage.

Women’s Best Friend
This herbal blend contains medicinal herbs that help blocked fallopian tubes, PID or other fertility issues where scar tissue, infection, and diseased tissues may be present.

Antibiotic: The antibiotic herbs in this blend help to clear out any infection that may exist in the reproductive system or fallopian tubes.

Anti-inflammatory: Anti-inflammatory herbs such as Goldenseal help to reduce the inflammation and reduce further scar tissue production.

Circulatory: Herbs in this blend help to increase blood flow through the reproductive organs.

Women’s Best Friend is best used for 2-3 months consistently in healing and preparation for pregnancy. For best results use for a couple of months prior to trying to conceive.

Healing Emotionally from Ectopic Pregnancy

Many women find it hard to move forward with trying to conceive after ectopic pregnancy. The statistics for recurrent ectopic pregnancy may compound this. If you have suffered an ectopic pregnancy, I am sure somewhere in the back of your mind you are asking, “Will this happen again?” Fear can create anxiety when trying to conceive and with subsequent pregnancies. How can you face those fears, and move forward? Fear alone can make getting pregnant again difficult. Work toward letting go of resentment, anger or shame surrounding your circumstances, in regard to your ectopic pregnancy. We are more than our physical bodies, treating yourself holistically is going to greatly improve your chances of healing, so you can move toward a successful, healthy pregnancy.

  • Seek counseling
  • Actively engage your body in healing therapies
  • Join an ectopic pregnancy support group or forum
  • Journal about your journey
  • Acknowledge your loss, take time to mourn, allow yourself space to process the experience
  • Pray
  • Consciously thank your body for all that is does everyday
  • Believe in your body’s capacity to heal itself
  • Get body work done or do body work on yourself: Reiki, Maya Abdominal Massage, Self Fertility Massage or acupuncture
  • Meditate or visualize a healthy pregnancy happening for you as your body is healing
  • Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT)

EFT
EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) is similar to acupuncture. In this technique, various energy points in the body are unlocked by gentle tapping. The theory behind this technique is that all negative emotions are caused by a disruption in the body’s energy system. Either a practitioner can perform the tapping or the patient can be taught to perform the tapping alone. This technique is wonderful because it addresses both fertility and stress reduction at the same time. EFT has no known negative side effects, the reported success rates for resolving both emotional and physical issues is amazingly high with improvement for up to 95% of people.

I believe in the capacity of my body to heal itself.

I love myself unconditionally!

Summary

There are many possible causes of ectopic pregnancy, with no known preventative. Many women who have experienced an ectopic pregnancy have been shown to have low progesterone levels, but it is still unclear if progesterone alone will help to prevent ectopic pregnancies. Please talk with your doctor about this. If you have experienced or are experiencing an ectopic pregnancy make sure to take some time to nurture and take care of both your body and your mind through the use of systemic enzymes, abdominal massage, castor oil packs, herbal blends, counseling, EFT, meditation or look into joining a support group.

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  1. After 3 years of marriage and 6 years in a relationship I found out I was pregnant. I first thought was oh NO; my husband and I were having problems and I didn’t know where our relationship was going. I prayed and asked God if it were meant to be let it be and I’m not being picky all I want is a healthy baby. Everyone would always ask when we were going to have a baby because I’ve always been the ultimate auntie. On 10/22/11 I was started bleeding and decided to stop by the hospital for a quick check up before going out of town. It was the worst day of my life and I cry daily and I’m in so much pain inside. Why me? Im one who never questions God because he makes No mistakes but WHY ME? I say it in caps because I scream it inside daily. My husband and I relationship is on track but I know I need to talk to someone about it. He holds it in and every once in a while we discuss it but he doesn’t like to talk about it.

  2. hello
    as i read everyone different stories i would like to share mine just yesterday i found out i had an eptopic pregnancy i had no idea i was pregnant due to the fact that i had recently gotten my IUD 1 month and 1/2 ago. ever since i got the IUD i was bleeding as if i was on my period and alot of cramping i called my dr’s office and nurse told me it was completely normal that it would take about 2 weeks for the pain and blood to stop. 3 weeks pass and still i had cramping and bleeding i went into the office and dr said everything looked normal never did she say i was pregnant or anything but she sent me home and said to wait 2-4 weeks and if it continued she would have the IUD removed.
    So 5 days pass after seeing my dr and i end up with horrible abdominal pain in the middle of the night. I start to blackout and i feel extremely weak with the immense pain. while my mother gets up to take me to the ER as i tried to get up i passed out and fell to the ground my family called the ambulence and i was take to the ER the dr had an ultrasound and blood work done to me and he comes and tells me i was pregant I was in shock and he told me he had to remove my fallopian tube possibly my organ too i was devastated just the thought my baby wouldn’t make it and the thought i could possibly not have anymore babies in the future. the dr ended up removing my left fallopian tube it had ruptured and i had a hemorrhage which at the moment i wasnt told but as i read this article it daid it could cause death.
    Now i am truly scared and it feels like i lost trust in dr’s i mean this was something that could have be detected by having a pregnancy test done or bloodwork but the dr figures since i was on my period everything was ok. im only 20 years old and i would like to know if it’ll be hard to have babies in the future and if it could be dangerous???

  3. Hi!

    I have endometriosis and have undergone a laparoscopic surgery in 2007 to remove the endometrosis which was about 7cm diameter. I was on pills until 2011 and the doctor advised me to do an IVF because the endometriosis may have caused some fertility problems and thereby I may have become infertile. I have sought for a second opinion and the second doctor advised me to do my ovulation test. I also began to do yoga since 2009.In April of this year, I found out that I was pregnant. I was so happy!!!! But after three weeks, I got a severe pain and went to the hospital. The doctor told me that I have an ectopic pregnancy and have to be operated immediately. I feel really devasted. I went through the operation and luckily for me the tube was not ruptured and both tubes and ovaries are still intact. I am so scared however to be pregnant again but at same time I want so much to become a mother. I am 27 years old and i don’t want to an IVF to become pregnant as the chances of success is very low in my country.Kindly advise what i can do so that I can be pregnant again and not encounter an ectopic pregnancy again.

  4. I had surgery from an ectopic pregnancy 2 weeks ago I already had intercourse is that ok I went to doctors the said were they cut at it looks good it healed fine..

  5. Thank you for this site. I read most of the stories on here and it is like I am reading my story 15 times over. My first Ectopic was in January 2010. It ended in the removal of the tube after it had burst. I was devastated, however moved on eventually. I became very ill with a disease called Meningo-Encephalitis. For those who do not know that is an infection of the Meninges as well as the brain itself. This was in August 2010. I was very sick for a long time and still feel a lot of the side effects from this terrible disease. In July 2011, I had another Ectopic. This one burst as well but hit a major blood vessel and I lost over 60 percent of the blood in my body and needed to have 4 blood transfusions and was very sick for a long time. I am now 25 and can no longer have children. I do have one very beautiful son from a previous marriage but long to have more children and feel the guilt that with my Fiance we can not. He has no children and we both would love to have more but with out current situation and the economy it just does not seem possible. I am hoping to one day find an affordable mean to have at least one more child. For all of you ladies, don’t give up! Before my two Ectopic s I had miss carried once before when I was younger. I can first hand tell you how hard it is to deal with this everyday but it does get better! Everyday is a struggle but it is one I face head on because I know someday I will have more children and I just need to wait my turn!

  6. Hey my name is Amanda and I just found out 3 days ago that I’m pregnant and it might be in my tubes, I had a tubalagation 5 years ago and my left over removed 2 years ago, so right now I’m in major shock. I’m so glad I ran across your website it helped me understand a lot about what I’m going thru. thanks

  7. i had a daughter in 2008,, soon after i was told i have ovarian cysts. in 2009 i had a false pregnancy (placenta but no baby) which had to end as a miscarriage naturally. a couple of months after was when i found out of my cysts due to bad pains and ending up in emergency room, felt like i was havin a miscarriage again. i am married so i usually have sex on a daily basis and still can not beome pregnant. i had a c-section with my first child.. my scar is ok, a thin white line but with a little bubble that every now n then bubbles up nd puss comes out. and its on my left side of the scar as well as i was told my cyst are on my left ovary.. could that be the problem? will i ever become pregnant? i want a second child..

  8. Hi,
    I married 2010 Dec, and pregnant in Oct 2011, but end up ectopic pregnancy, I went for emergency room on Nov 2011, almost ‘save’ as I lost blood so much and my fallopian tube is remove (left side). Until now I’m waiting for miracle, I did take evening prim rose, folic acid, drink milk, eat vegetables, fruits. My period is Ok, every month. But why I can’t pregnant. I read your articles, to take ‘royal jelly’ I feel excited, if this is really working out for me. Is there a ‘fast’ changes for me to get pregnant?

  9. Hi dalene,

    I have tried ivf for 9 years now…. Last time I had the ectopic pregnancy but they didn’t have to remove my Fallopian tube thanks god,of course I have experienced the pain on all levels….do you think I can get pregnant one day ? I don’t want to do ivf anymore,I am 38.I there any medication to clean my tubes? Not a surgery?thank you for listening and answering,god bless you!
    Ck

  10. Hi there ive had 2 etopic pregnancies in 3 months lost mt left tube and now had laproscopy done to the right tube which is now gonna be damaged i still want to try and have another baby is this still possible for me or will i have a 3rd eptopic pregnancy i do have hope since my right tube didnt have to be removed.

  11. hi i am 23 years old and had to get my left Fallopian tube removed through laparoscopy due to an ectopic pregnancy in feb 2012 i.e. two months back. My doctor told me that it was due to Chlamydia and gave me treatment of doxycline antibiotic but my right tube n ovary is fine. please tell me what are my chances of a healthy pregnancy again and what can i do to avoid an ectopic pregnancy again.
    pls help……

  12. I tried to conceive for a year and 5 months. 8 months ago I was diagnose with poor ovarian reserve. Three months ago I got here and started the egg improve health. On March 31st 2012 I got a positive result and then on April 9th after heavy bleeding and lower HGC level the Dr told me that I had a miscarriage. Two weeks later my HGC were up again and after an utlrasound the Dr told me I had an EP on my right tube. They had to remove the entire tube and now I am thinking about forgetting pregnancy all together. But I want to thank you because after been given no chance to get pregnant by my own, with your program I did. Right now I don’t think I can try again because I feel so angry, sad and depress.

  13. I am so happy that i have found this website,I am 24 and in august last year i found out i was pregnant a few days later i started bleeding and having pain in my right side, i went to the hospital where they said it was implantation bleeding i went for hormonal blood tests and it wasnt reaching the desired level for a viable pregnancy 2 weeks later they told me it was an ectopic pregnancy caused by PID and i had my right tube removed, they told me my left tube was damaged, clubbed at the bottom, and stuck down, this has brought me severe emotional pain and they told me i would only concieve through ivf, i am hopeful after stumbling across this website in my quest for further information that doctors dont give you, i still expierience pain in my abdomen. How do i cleanse my body and what supplements should i take Thank you so much in advance

  14. Hi, am so happy to find a website like this. i had an EP last year November and since then i have had after morning pill about thrice. I was advised to avoid trying to conceive for the next 6months ( that is why i took the after morning pills). Each day i cry as the trauma increases. I know there are possibilities of me getting pregnant again, but the problems is am scared of having another ectopic pregnancy. i have had an appendice surgery and that is where my only tube is . How do i overcome my fear. My fiance is worried too . We are meant to be married by now but he’s gone silent over it and i fear that this is because of the EP.

    Please i need help

  15. i had ectopic pregnancy some 3yrs ago and i become pregnant anytime i take ECP after unprotected sex. pls tell me why

  16. three days ago i found out i was pregnant. my boyfriend and i couldn’t be more thrilled but then the next day i felt sick to my stomache and felt the worst cramp on my right side. I thought maybe it was normal so i tried to lay down then chose to see if a hot shower would help and thats when i found out i was bleeding.I’m currently going through the methotrexate treatment and can’t wait for it to be over. Now i’m really struggling with the depression of losing my first baby and trying to find the best way to tell my parents. any suggestions because at the moment i just want to send my mother an email until i’m done with the treatment?

  17. Hi,

    I am 33 and had a Ruptured etopic on 14th Feb 2011. My scar is healing well but I am still swollen, my tummy also feels hard, is this normal?
    My left fallopian tube has been removed but ovaries remain. How much does my chances of getting pregnant reduce?
    What can I do to increse my chances?

    Thanks for you help
    Amanda

  18. I have NEVER been pregnant before, which is truly my greatest fear. My appendix ruptured when i was 16, causing me to be hositalized for months. Later i found out that the poisonous fluids from my appendix leaked and caused problems with my left tube. So, I had my left tube removed at 23, Now im 25, just got married and have a strong desire to conceive and its been sooooo difficult. I cring everytime i see my period, thinking that pregnacy will never happen for me. I’m nervous and truly don’t know what to do…PLEASE HELP!

  19. i have had an ectopic pregnancy in my left falopean tube and never got it removed.. can i ever have a normal pregnancy??? where can you buy these treatmenets to remove scaring on the tube ???

  20. Hello im 23 years old and in Jan of this year I had some left abdominal pain and went to the ER I found out I was pregnant and late that day released. I was told to go to the clinic to do follow up appointments and so I did. For about a month and a half I was back and forth from the hospital and clinic. My blood count would always increase but none of the sonograms where showing anything. Until one day a new Dr. I went to see ruled an ectopic pregnancy. She sent me straight to the hospital where I was to get that metho shot. My blood count was to high so a D and C was performed on Fed 29. Two weeks later was my follow up with the Dr. who performed the D and C. She took my blood an told me I should call 3 days later. I did he said everything was okay. The next morning I had to be rushed to the hospital because I was on the verge of dying due to the ectopic pregnancy erupting in my left Fallopian tube. I had surgery that same day where they removed my left tube and drain out some bad blood that was stuck inside. I had to get a total of 6 pints of blood give to me. It’s been about 3 week since the surgery and sometimes I’m still in slight pain. Is this normal? Should I be worried? I’m physically damaged as well as emotionally. Any advice or comment is thankful.

  21. Hi Everyone,

    It was really good to read the blogs, provides some reassurance!
    I am 21, from New Zealand, and I found out I have an ectopic pregnancy just 2 days ago. I have been up and down with emotions this week. I was told a few years ago that it would be hard to get pregnant as I have pelvic congestion – Which is basically varicose veins in my uterus. So it is not sure that my womb would expand anyway if I did get pregnant normally. I was in shock when my pregnancy test was positive as I took the test as a joke, I had no symptoms whatsoever! So I went from happy about being able to be pregnant, to then having an ectopic pregnancy. My partner husband is finding it hard also – We feel as if we have been teased! I still don’t know if I am to have surgery or the injection, as I don’t find out how far along I am until Tuesday. I know whatever the option, its not going to be pleasant. And I don’t know which outcome to hope for as I’m almost hoping to be further along so I can be but to sleep for a laprascopy (Which I have had before) and I am planning to do acupuncture after and counselling. What do you suggest for the boys?

    Thanks

  22. hello

    I am very concerned..I has ectopic pregnancy in August of last year, I have been getting my period regularly n now I am 3 days late for my period I am very scared becuz I was tod I couldn’t have another pregnancy on my own…wat r my chances??? I am so afraid because that pain was one I never had experienced not even with my 9 year old..

  23. Hi , There my name is Chrissy ( Christina ) yeah I just had an Ectopic Pregnancy Loss This Month and had Surgery done , Yeah I am Feeling better just concerned about the sex part . You See I Couldn’t Help myself but to have intercourse with my boyfriend couldn’t help it you know how it is to be so much in love with the father of your first born I got a son as well..!! i love my baby boy so much , we do wear condoms but i’m not taking no birth control just yet .
    But Giving my body some time to heal first gonna give it about 4 months to try to conceive but i don’t know maybe within a year from now .! just need some Advice

  24. Thank you for this forum! I have been reading alot of forums over the last few days. I feel like you ladies will understand some of what I am going thru.

    On the outside I am cool, calm and together but on the inside, I am a emotional mess! My emotions reeking havoc on my mind. If its ok I would like to share my full story. It may be a bit long…

    I am 33, and have had 4 ectopic pregnancy’s.
    May 1999 – 8wks pregnant – end result – ruptured left tube, open surgery, blood transfusion, stapled-
    Aug 2001 – 7wks pregnant – end result – open surgery (opened right tube, extracted pregnancy), stapled –
    March 2002 – 5wks pregnant – end result – 2 shots of methotrexate, bled and cramped for a month –
    2006 – Had HSG (hysteosalpingogram) IVF Doc performed the dye procedure and said my existing tube is blocked will need IVF if want to conceive.

    I went almost 10 years without a pregnancy. ( no birth control )

    Dec 2011 – 7wks pregnant – end result – 2 shots methotrexate – didnt work. Open surgery – Removal of Right tube and Right Ovary (they were stuck together which was also stuck to my pelvic wall) desolving stitches –

    I am left one ovary and a uterus. The chances of having a “normal” “natural” pregnancy has ceased.

    Why am I on this forum? well, what do I do now?
    I feel like some days I am going crazy.
    Between the hot flashes, dryness and nausea every month (4 months now) when I ovulate, still trying to get yet, a wider incision to heal and not roll over my waist band, and feel pretty hoping the scent of failure I feel will not fill the room that im in, Where do I go from here?

    Sometimes I think about “if this didnt happen I would be giving birth this August. Im soooo incredibly saddened by this loss. Im 33 yrs old and all I ever wanted was a family. And now, … well lets say in my experience when a pregnancy has to be planned (IVF) to some it looses its WOW Factor. The Magic .. Or the acceptance and or desire or the urgency when you find out you will becoming a parent..
    When I got pregnant this last time, some people who knew me and my history would say, ” Its meant to be” or “Miracles Happen”..
    So I must ask. Does this mean Im not suppose to have a child? The thought of not having children pulls on my heart strings.

    Some days I dont even want to think about any of this and I can re-focus. Some days I cant get it out of my head!

    I dont know, I find myself searching for people who have miraculously conceived without Fallopian tubes and gave birth to a healthy baby. Somewhere in my head I know its BS I guess I just need something to believe in…
    Sigh…
    Anyone out there having difficulties like this?

  25. Hi, I am 23 with twin boys who are 4 I just found out I was pregnant Feb 8 and on Feb 17 I was walking into the ER room, because of a ectopic pregnancy. I had surgery that ended with me loosing my child and my right tube. Me and my husband were emotionally devastated we were blind sided and didn’t expect this. Its been a month now since my surgery I have not had a menstrual as of yet but stomach just rectly started cramping, but no signs of my period could I be pregnant again this soon?and if so will my body be able to handle this

    • Hi Ashley,

      It would be best to talk to your doctor about this, just in case you are pregnant. It is possible for you to ovulate again so soon, though rare, but the possibility is still there. You would need to talk to your doctor about risk factors for becoming pregnant so early after ectopic pregnancy and surgery. You may have missed your cycle due to the surgery and trauma to your reproductive organs as well.

      May you heal well!

      Dalene

  26. I just wanted to share my story…as next month is the 20th anniversary of my ectopic pregnancy! I was 19. I was on the pill! It was a terribly heartbreaking thing at the time and my left tube was ruptured and removed and I endured lots of pain, had to have a complete blood transfusion and was in hospital for 7 days! My Doctor at the hospital told me I had a 50/50 chance of conceiving in the future which at such a young age was soul destroying as I had always wanted kids.

    But now I am delighted to say that after having cleansed my body, had acupuncture and charted my cycles and a session of hypnofertility, I have a wee baby girl of 18 months and now another one on the way, both conceived naturally! It is SOOOOOO possible with just one tube! I don’t want anyone out there to give up thinking it won’t happen for them because they had an ectopic. If, like me it was a mindset thing and you didn’t believe, or were told by some careless Doctor that you will NEVER conceive then go see a hypnotherapist! Get that negative thought out of your head and go for it! It can happen for you as it has for me! Because of this experience and my background with endo & ovarian cysts and my success in conceiving, I now teach Natural Fertility Management to people in NZ, learning to chart your cycles is so empowering and it worked so well for me! Blessings and love to you all! xxx

  27. Hi Eveyone
    Help me! Help Me! 5 years ago I got an ectopic pregnancy since I never get pregnant. I have 38 years old and I need a child, scare to have another ectopic Pregnancy. I don’t know what to do.PLEASE I NEED ADVICE.

    Maria

  28. Hi Dalene
    This website is really helpfull for everyone who wants to get pregnant. 4 years ago I had an ectopic pregnancy I was treated with methotrexate. Since, I never get pregnant, My Dr advise me to begin with my ovulation test during six months consecutive. Please, can you tell me which product I should use.
    I really, really scare for having another one.

    • It seems like good advice, finding out if you are ovulating is a first step to timing when you can conceive. If you are not ovulating you can then take steps to improving that. It is hard to make suggestions without knowing your personal health history. You may want to book an Email Fertility Consultation so we can take the time to look into your health history, diet, cycle, etc. and then we can make suggestions that are specific for your personal situation. Here is the link if you would like to book one: http://natural-fertility-info.com/natural-fertility-email-consultations
      They will be available again March 5th.

  29. Hi Dalene,
    I am so glad to read through about your site. Its so interesting. I am 44 years old and have been my tubal ligation for 20 years, but i have my regret of what i have done to my fallopian tubes. Me and fiancee wanted to have me pregnant, but i don’t know how is it possible to unblock my fallopian tube by using Castor Oil and Self Fertility Massage? Please do advice me. Thank you so much and i hope to hear from you. More power and help to women who are desperately to be pregnant. God bless you always.

    Best regards,
    Sonnette

  30. i found out i was pregnant for the first time January 16 2012 and loss my pregnancy in February due to ectopic i was 5 weeks along and very exited i got the shotfirst and two days later i started having pain went back to the er and they had to do surgery and take my right tube. i been reading about the 2080 sucess stories i still want my baby at least one. i just don’t know why this had to happen to me. i’m anxious of starting back to have sx again but im kind scared to death of having another ectopic pregnancy. is there some kind of prevention i can take so this won’t happen again?

    • Hi ciji,

      Any of the suggestions in this article may help to prevent another ectopic pregnancy. None of them are full-proof, but may be very helpful. I have known many women who have had an ectopic pregnancy, who then went on to have a healthy pregnancy!

      Thank you for sharing your story.

      Dalene

  31. I don’t know how, but I am SO GRATEFUL I stumbled across this site. I have had a total of 6 pregnancies and 0% success. All 6 have resulted in either an ectopic or miscarriage. My husband and I have been married for almost 3 years and together for 5. I have always dreamed of being a mother and I just had another pregnancy loss just 1 month prior to us tying the knot. I even told my husband that if he wanted to find someone else to give him the 2 kids he wants to have, I would understand (he told me that I was the one he wanted to be with and this isn’t reason enough for him to find someone else…I love this man!). My heart aches so much that I have not yet been able to carry a baby and since we have been together, I have had a total of 4 pregnancy losses. Sometimes I even feel like I’m less of a woman compared to others out there. I have gone to counseling but still my heart aches. I don’t think that there is anything out there that will make that aching feeling go away to be completely honest. I know it sounds crazy, but I want to have the morning sickness, nausea, weight gain, everything that most pregnant women want to avoid. I am willing to try just about anything to be able to fulfill my dreams of becoming a mother. I am Korean, Chinese, and white and grew up with herbal medicinal remedies before resorting to over the counter western type medicine. I want to try things that are natural first before resorting to IVF and I feel like this site is a great step in helping me try natural help first. I have already had the HSG (hysterosalpingogram (HSG) is an X-ray test that examines the inside of uterus and fallopian tubes and the surrounding area) and had no blockage in my tubes. My OBGYN “believes” that I just have weak tubes. I have had ovarian cyst removed as well in 1997 but I did have a pregnancy loss prior to that. I am so excited to try everything suggested on this site and hope that my fortune baby, or babies, come through in the year of the Dragon. (Oh yeah…my mother was an identical twin, on my dad’s side I have great aunts that were identical twins, my husband has 1 set of twin brothers within his 23 siblings that are all 100% blood related, and just in 2011 there were at least 2 sets of twins born on his side.)

  32. Hi Dalene, I got pregnant by IVF (blocked fallopian tubes diagnosed by HSG), first try. From 3 embrios the result was one ectopic pregnancy, other uterine but underdeveloped. D/C and laparascopy had to be done, one tube had to be removed, the other cleaned from adhesions. I need to rest for a month (still 3weeks left). I went through articles on your site and found great infos, and encouragement for the future, although it is still hard to cope with all what happened. Please let me know when is best time to start the massage after D/C and lap., please also let me know what would be the basic advice to follow, i.e. which kit to use from your offers. Is there perhaps a branch in Europe for the orders to reduce the shipment costs? Thank you in advance

    • Hi Ana,

      It is best to wait at least 2 weeks to a month before beginning any type of massage. You could do the massage very lightly, not pressing very deeply. If you have external incisions, it is best to wait to do Castor Oil packs and massage until those are fully healed as well. Internally Sytemic Enzyme Therapy could be started about 2 weeks post-op. We only sell our kits and other products through our online Natural Fertility Shop.

      Best Wishes,

      Dalene

  33. Hi there,

    Glad I found your site, very helpful and encouraging! I am 27, and recently found out I was pregnant. Took almost 1 year, but after doing some reading and a few sessions of reflexology, goji berries, and other natural remedies I found out I was pregnant. At 7 weeks, and my first ultrasound showed that there was an EP 5cm in my tube and there was another gestational sac with no FHR. Was told to come back in a week, but my results were sent into the hospital and I was told to go to ER ASAP, which lead to the removal of both, three days before xmas 🙁 Surgery took 4hrs, said it was pretty bad, and had to remove my tube. Never got to ask, but I wonder if my ovary was left?? I will have to find out…

    Mentally, trying to stay strong but it is hard sometimes, as it was my first pregnancy (that I wanted so much) and I was also born with Gastroschisis, which left me with a huge vertical scar on my abdomen, and now this surgery just gave me 3 new scars. They also said not to try naturally, otherwise I will end up with another EP, due to all the scar tissue in my abdomen. I am going to see a specialist, and hopefully get a few tests done to see if my other tube is blocked. So we might look to IVF for our first and once and if that happens, we will then go back to the natural way and what ever happens, happens!! AND I had a little bit of hope this morning, as I started spotting finally, 6 weeks after the surgery, so hopefully my body gets its natural cycle back!!

    • Hi Tiffany,

      Thank you so much for sharing your experience and the emotions of your difficult journey. If you are interested in natural healing options for more advanced blocked fallopian tube cases, a clinic called Clear Passages may be helpful. You can do a search for them online. I hope you go on to have a baby and heal your body!

      Best wishes,

      Dalene

  34. Hi, Everyone. My name is Crystal and I am 29 yrs old. Last year was the worst year ever for me! I went through two ectopic pregnancies which resulted in me losing both tubes. I have no children and was very happy both times to be pregnant. After the first loss, I joined a support group and it helped a little bit. My soon-to-be-hubby has been there for me both times and is very supportive. Our only option is ivf and I know the costs are going to be soooo much. It gives me little hope of actually conceiving a child. Is there any help for families that are trying to conceive through ivf? Financial assistance-that is. If there’s anything that you can think of, we would greatly appreciate it. Until then, we are saving every bit we can. Thanks in advance!!!

    • Hi Crystal,

      I am sorry, I don’t know a reliable resource for that information. You may want to call around to clinics in your area. I wish you all the best in your journey! Don’t give up hope! We had a woman announce in our Natural Fertility Community that she is finally 11 week pregnant (IVF) after being told she would never have children, so don’t give up hope, it is possible!

      Best Wishes,

      Dalene

  35. Hello, I was having pain in my left ovary but I thought it was cramping the day of my sons first birthday I woke up crying in pain and went to the er where I found out I was pregnant. The doctor made it sound ok at first then all of a sudden I had to do all these test where they found it in my tube. They thought it ruptured and I was bleeding badly in my abdomen but when the doctor opened me up I was lucky and they stopped the rupture and cleaned up bleeding. It’s been almost 4 days now and I’m in pain and I feel helpless since I can’t take care of my son. Not just that but my partner won’t talk about it and it makes it harder to deal with I just feel alone. My 21 birthday is in a week and my family wants to go out but right now nothing feels right all I wanna do is cry but I need to stay strong. How can I get my partner to stop avoiding me… I just need a friend!

    • Hi Casey,

      I am sorry to hear how sad you are. I know this about a week old, I hope you are doing better! Ask for help from family and friends. It may seem scary, but it is one of the most responsible and powerful things you can do for yourself in times of need. Give your husband time. It can be confusing and difficult for them as well. Rely on yourself for strength, ask for advice and support elsewhere if he is unresponsive. Let him know how you feel, but try not to pry, or question him too much. Hopefully he will come around and you two will heal and go on to have other children if that is what you would like to do.

      Best Wishes,

      Dalene

  36. Hi im currently on the stage of ectopic pregnancy that measures almost 1cm.. My ob-gyne gave me a shot of Methotrexate on dec 14 and on 16 the ultras0und shows that the embryo has slightly decreases its size.Tomorrow I will get the result of my beta hcg and im hoping that it will dr0p from its last level of 282. I hope that this gonna end soon, coz it is really to be on these situation.

  37. I am 22 and jus recently had an ectopic pregnancy in november.I started havein bad cramps on my right side n went to the doctor .that doctor said everything was good and she said she seen it n the uterus.a week later I had spotted a little.so I went to the hospital to make sure n come to find out I had an ectopic pregnancy.so since my tubes wasn’t rupture n I was 6 or 7 weeks the doc gave me the methotrexate shot.than I had to go c him for follow ups.evrytime I went he would do utrasound n blood test to make sure my homonr level was goin down.n he ended up havein to give me another dose on the 21st of november.on the 29th I went to work n my stoamch was huritn again on the right side.made it through the work day and the next day I was off n was haveing worse pain n threw up.so I decdided it was time to go to the hospital.I went n they said it was getting bigger.n I had to do surgery.I said I didn’t want my tube taken out cause I want to have anothr baby.after surgery my doc sais they took out that pregnancy n half of that tube that was infected from wen I had the std chlamydia for a year.I had jus recently got it treated n june.got pregnant in october.also I was takeinf a fertility medicine called fertibella.for two months.anyways.now I’m recovering from my surgery I had on the 1st of decmber.and they gave me birth control pills so wen I get my period to take.also was told to wait 6 months to try again.which is like april next year.

  38. Hi Dalene my name is Soma Thakur, and I experience ectopic pregnancy in October 2010, I treated with methotraxate. but after than i m very much scared to get pregnant. After reading your article i m feeling little bit confident. Please tell me how it can be prevented. I dont want again this.

    • Hi Soma,

      Avoid smoking cigarettes, make sure you do not have blocked fallopian tubes, PID, or other STD’s, make sure you have adequate progesterone levels and avoid fertility medications. All of these increase your risk for ectopic pregnancy. I am sorry for you loss!

      Dalene

  39. Hi Dalene my name is Christina. I’m very very depressed. I experience a ectopic pregnancy Saturday October 15, 2011. I had been waiting for 7yrs. My daughter is 7yrs old. I’m really not scared that it will happen again really not trying to put that thought in my mind cause it’s very painful in depressing. I want to try again in 7 months or 9 months, is that too soon? Do I need to let my body heal more? I also only have one tube left the other one was taken out.

    • Hi Christina Washington,

      I am so sorry for your very recent loss! I think trying in 7-9 months will give you plenty of time to heal and prepare your body for a new pregnancy! Because you only have 1 fallopian tube left, you may only be able to achieve conception every other month, instead of every month. The ovaries take turns each cycle producing a mature follicle for ovulation and the fallopian tube sweeps the follicle up to await fertilization. With only one tube functioning, that leaves every other cycle to become pregnant. So that is something to think about, if you are trying and it seems to be taking longer than expected.

      Keep your head up and take care!

      Dalene

  40. I was so excited when my husband and I found out we were pregnant last Oct, but around 6 weeks, I miscarried. The miscarriage left me devastated, but I was still very optimistic. When we first decided to start having kids, I started tracking my periods and ovulation cycles, and to my surprise I got pregnant after that cycle. As I said that ended up as a miscarriage. Well in April of this year, I found out once again that I was pregnant. I was so excited because of the loss we previously had, and we weren’t really trying and it happened. Well, as soon as I found out I was pregnant all sorts od complications began. I was in so much pain, and I bled and spotted a lot. Well after about a week straight of back and forth everyday blood draws and ultrasounds, one hospital admission, and 2 ER visits, we came to the conclusion that my pregnancy was ectopic, and because I waited so long my right tube ruptured. I had to be rushed into surgery, and as a result my tube ruptured and I lost it, and the tube I have left is my left one, and I have hydrosalpynx in that one. I am so devastated because my doctor told me IVF was pretty much by only option with a 40-50% success rate, and naturally conceiving was about a 20% chance of success. I can’t afford IVF, and even if I could, my husband doesn’t really feel comfortable with IVF process. I stumbled across this website, and it seems very hopeful. I am very interested in the natural cleansing, and I wanted to know if anyone could recommend what would be the best treatments for me. My condition is I have only 1 fallopian tube and it is blocked, and there is some scar tissue on it, history of a miscarriage, and an ectopic pregnancy. By the way I also have a tilted uterus. Thank.

  41. I have in the past 6 months lost 3 babies and both my tubes. I am looking at IVF and I wonder if this still works 3 weeks later as the 2 babies I lost were august this year?

    • Hi Tam,

      First off, I extend my love and blessings to you for your losses. This program would be best for women with scar tissue and adhesion damage from the ectopic pregnancy. If you do not have that, and you are wanting to prepare for IVF instead, we have a wonderful guide for that. Please go to this link to learn the best natural remedies for IVF preparation: http://natural-fertility-info.com/increase-ivf-success

      Warmly,

      Dalene

  42. Hi, I just wanted to encourage those who are here searching. I was devastated after an ectopic pregnancy two years ago. I found this website by Divine intervention and began the instructions for damaged or blocked Fallopian tubes (this section was not here yet) as well as the fertility cleanse. After about four months, my husband and I felt it was time to try again. I felt healthy and strong after the nutrient loading, supplements and fertility massage. Right now, I’m laying in bed next to my one year old son sleeping peacefully beside me (: It works!

    • Hi Ameerahh,

      Wow, what a sweet post! You have made my day! Congratulations on your sweet boy. Thank you so much for sharing your story, you will be such an inspiration to so many women!

      Enjoy being a mother!

      Dalene

  43. Well i have 2 children a 7 and 8 year old. Girl and boy! So i was happy with that and got my tubes tied when i was 22 after i had my son in 2004. Anyhow have been in a steady relationship with the same person since 2005 and no worries. He knew my tubes were tied and we both had kids from previous relationships. Well it seems to be exactly 7 years after i had my tubes tied that i became pregnant! We both were in denial but never has my cycle been late and my boyfriend always gets a pimple on his face right when my cycle comes but not this month. The pimple came but no cycle! So come to find out i really was and it was just funny thinking i was gonna have another baby until i started having these left sided pains in my pelvic area. So took a hpt and both were positive and the pains pains became worse after week 2 on no cycle. So during week three i had the worse pain since i dnt know when. It would not go away and then thats when we went to the ER. Well after the ultra sound it was confirmed that my baby was 7 weeks and growing right outside my left ovary and had ruptured in my fallopian tube also. So they prepped me for surgery and after that my baby, left ovary, and my left fallopian tube were gone and all i have left now is this pain that i swear will never go away. Even though i got my tubes tied, i really did wnt a baby with the person who i had been with for 6 years now and when it actually happened i was all for it, but it wasnt supposed to be i guess. It was hard for both of us and i know he really wanted another baby if though this wasnt planned. I really wanted this baby and feel like my child was taken from me even though he or she never made it into this world. I had my surgery 15 of July 2011 and today is July 18th 2011. Today is the day that im really thinking about my baby. Very sad and wish it would of been a regular pregnancy. My third child would of been born sometime in May 2012. But im sure the reason it was a ectopic pregnancy and was also told by my Dr was because of my tubes being tied. But somehow one mighty determined sperm got through my tied tubes and created this mess. I never knew you really could still become pregnant after having them tied. But i guess the body will heal itself and somehow made a tiny entrance for a visitor but not big enough for two to leave 🙁 I dnt know why im all of a sudden emotional and feeling really sad but i am. I know that my baby was 7 weeks and i will always consider this my third child/baby. I would not wish this this type of emotional or physical pain on anyone.

  44. I had an ectopic pregnancy 6 weeks ago, I am 23 and couldn’t have been happier about my Pregnancy like some of you I was in complete shock when I got told it was ectopic – I had no pain but after having sex I bled and knew straight away there was something not right I had to go to a & e twice and to see the emergency dr before they put my name forward to have an early scan to “put my mind at rest” I was 11 weeks pregnant and I had to have a tube removed as it was damaged they checked my other tube whilst operating and told me it was healthy so that gives me faith! I am still struggling now to understand why me and no one has an answer for me it’s definitely made my relationship stronger and I hope to try again in 12 months and hopefully have a happy and healthy pregnancy :o)

  45. I’m happy to have found you. And, it’s relieving to hear other women who have been through what I have. I’m 32, married 7 years, and I’ve had 2 ectopic pregnancies – both tubes have been removed. The first surgery broke me – I was anxious about dying and afraid because I realized that your body can actually fail you. I dove head on into taking care of myself – yoga, veganism, exercise. Over a year later, I tried with my one tube, and it happened again. This time, I was hurt, but I took it graciously and still give thanks for all the positives in my life and the lessons I’ve learned from my circumstances. I also have fibroids 🙂 What are story, huh??? But, I haven’t lost faith… I have life and options – IVF maybe, adopting surely, a surrogate: there must be a way. No one knows the cause of my issues, but I do feel childhood experiences have a strong role to play (as airy-fairy as that may sound). So, I’m onto another journey of truly healing myself… and hoping miracles really do happen. I know that pain has its purpose, and I’m happy to find women like you who have taken the time to help women like me.

    Namaste & Thanks.

  46. Hi Dalene
    Thank you for talking about ectopic,i did that in 1992 by that i didnt knw anything about ectopic i was pregnant for 3 months doctors couldnt see anything until i started bleeding so strongly and my blood was brown.and they have to cut it cause it was damage,and they said i was lucky to survive,since then i didnt use any contraceptive pills until now at the age of 41 i ve being going up and down searching for help instead they told me to forget cause if you are using 1 tube u wont get pregnant.

    it is difficult for me cause im in a marriage,do you think i will be able to conceive again?Last year i went to the hospital they said i’ve got fibroid in my ovary.

  47. Hi Dalene,

    I am so so thank full for this site, I been in so much pain and depression since I had my ectopic in Dec 2009, I had to have surgery and had one of my tubes removed and my ovary too! Well this year I am a little more happier I guess I am more focus on being more positive and I am married so maybe I have a lot more to look foward too. I am still confused on if I can still get pregnant because I have a lot of odds against me for one I have low egg count and then I had suffered from PID when I was 18 years old so the doctor had already put in my head that i had a 20/50 chance of getting pregnant and that I had a lot of scaring, then when I did get pregnant and it was ectopic I was in a state of shock and dismay! I am crying right now because I think about how lucky some people are to have the money to get procedures done to concieve, and even get a surrogate to provide service. I get hurt every time I here someone say well you can adopt! It is not the same like having your own, or at least have your genes. It bothers me even more that I am the oldest out of 7 and all of them not including my baby brother have children! I feel weird and strange and helpless!

  48. Hi Dalene,

    I really don’t know how I found this site, but it was helpful. I’m 19 years old and a few months ago, during my freshman year in college I had an ectopic pregnancy. I started getting pains that I had not experienced before. I knew I was pregnant, so I went to the ER, and was told I had an ectopic and needed an immediate surgery. Of course I was in shock, but at the same time I managed to stay calm. Then when I left the hospital, it hit me, especially because I was alone. I’m a foreign student. I was able to hide it because I had the surgery the Friday before spring break. My partner took care of me for the week, but when school started again, he said he couldn’t be by my side anymore, “I need to do me now” and left. He did not answer my calls or texts. To make it short: when I found out I was pregnant he did not want to be by my side anymore. At that time he was rushing a fraternity and said that he needed to choose between his fraternity and me, and the fraternity would open doors for him in the future, so he choose it. When I was in the hospital the only person I thought in calling was him, and because I was in the ER he came, but we were not exactly together anymore.

    After the surgery I felt extremely devastated. I was a wreck, I did not go class, got fired from work, lost my scholarship. I felt traumatized and emotionally scared. I started seeing a counselor, but it was only a matter of hours before starting feel like the world was ending again. Things ended pretty badly with my partner: to say the least, even the school police and judicial affairs had to get involved. Anyway, I felt depressed. I could not believe I actually experienced a pregnancy, yet alone a surgery due to an ectopic one. I was having breakdowns all the time, and whenever I felt one coming during class, I just left. I did not want to tell anyone at first, but as I starting to tell people around me, they started to help me. They would invite me to reunions, places, they would try to make me laugh and whatnot. I started going to church everyday too. But most of the time I wanted to sleep and be alone, or have my partner with me, but that never happened.

    ?It’s been three months, and I’m feeling better. My family knows something is wrong with me, but I can’t tell them, it’s not an option and it never was. I still get flashbacks, and it sucks. I don’t cry everyday though, I see that as progress. I listen to music a lot, I feel it makes me stronger, little by little. I am also taking a semester off, I can’t stand seeing my partner move on with his life (ignore me when I pass by him like he never knew me) or the looks from his friends when I pass by. I don’t want to start school if I’m not healed or feel ready to focus only on my studies. I guess, I want be strong and happy again, but I don’t want to depend on other people to do it. I tried that and it did not work. I hope really hope time heals my pain, just like people say.
    ?

    • Hi Ana,

      I am so sorry for you loss, this is a very difficult experience for any woman, especially someone so young! I know it is hard to believe, but life will not always be easy, you will have to pick yourself up several times throughout your life and move forward, even if it hurts to do so. In the end you may have to choose to share your story somehow, with a counselor, or a support group, or a close friend. Talking helps to process what you are going through, to get it out and let it begin to reveal paths toward healing. Keeping what you are feeling bottled up will only eat you up inside! If you really feel like you cannot talk about it, try writing in a journal. There are going to be people that will let you down, not just your ex-boyfriend, but you always have the beautiful light within, the one that keeps you going. You know in your heart your own strength and the beauty of your soul. This is going to be a stepping stone to making you stronger.

      I think you are already doing very well at paying attention to your own needs, if you feel like you need to take time off, then maybe that would be best. In my life if I feel like I want to isolate myself, I ask myself, “Am I making this choice out of fear or love?” This helps me to face and confront my fears, and then little by little move through them. Are you choosing to avoid school because of fear, or because you really need this?

      I know these words may not be very comforting, but honey you have a fire that can drive you to do anything.

      Warmly,

      Dalene

  49. thank for your time to talk about ectopic pregnancy. i had two ectopic pregnancy in one of 2009 in both tubes, one tube removed and the other blocked. its now two years but am scared for the future since am 25 years, i can still seek counseling because its killing in terms of stress ad depression. please advice me.
    Thanks

    • Hi Sarah,

      First I want to say I am sorry for your loss and pain! Ectopic pregnancy can be very difficult! If you are still struggling with fear and sadness over your loss, it would be a great idea to seek a counselor! Having someone to talk to about your experience can be very healing. You could also ask your local hospital if there are ectopic pregnancy support groups in your area.

      Be Well and take care!

      Dalene

  50. Hi here is winnie,
    thank you very much for talking about ectopic pregnancy i just had an ectopic pregnancy in January this year i am still under shock and despair, after longing for that kid for years. i am so scared, but i sure Know with your advice i can see a little light at the end of the tunnel. thanks once more.