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How to Honor Miscarriage Through Ritual

Dalene Barton - Certified Herbalist, Birth Doula
July 22, 2021
Reviewed by Christine Traxler, MD

Honoring miscarriage through ritual can be deeply healing. One meaning of ritual is a customary observance. A ritual for miscarriage is the simple act of observing pregnancy loss in some way, that honors the experience, validates feelings, and acknowledges the brief life and loss of a baby.

The ritual can be whatever the mother and father decide. It can be a simple observance or a large gathering of family and friends. Miscarriage can be profoundly painful for many and deserves to be recognized and honored in some way. Through ritual many find the great feeling of loss lessened and steps can be taken to move forward after the miscarriage is honored.

What a woman experiences through miscarriage deserves sacred honor. How that takes place and how she chooses to be a part of that honoring is up to her. May the thoughts and ideas here help women who have or are experience miscarriage to feel a deeper connection to their body, baby and the universe, so that healing at the core of the soul can take place. Ritual should be a part of any woman’s miscarriage recovery plan.

Miscarriage Ritual Ideas to Honor Pregnancy Loss

Just as birth and marriage are honored, so too is death. To the millions of women who have experienced pregnancy loss, this type of death can invoke a sense of grief that can linger, creating doubts and fears about her own body and capacity to be a good mother. This is why performing a ritual to honor the loss is so important.

Ceremony

A simple ceremony can be performed in private, alone, at church, as a couple, or surrounded by family and friends. A simple ceremony can include some or all of the ideas below. It is best for the mother to do what she feels is right for her healing process.

Art

The act of creating a work of art is very healing. Pour out all that is felt into painting, collage, pastel, clay, colored pencil or mixed media. Get your partner involved if he/she would like to. Don’t worry about technique, or being perfect, just create. Choose mediums and colors that you feel drawn to.

Prayer

Prayers for healing, understanding, peace, and for the soul of the baby are healing for all involved. Prayers alone, prayer with the leader of your church, and prayer with family and friends are a great way to speak freely, from the heart to the God of your beliefs.

Meals

Though eating might not sound very good, food has been used as a way to honor and nourish one another during hard times throughout human history. Why not use it to honor a life passed on? Choose nourishing, delicious foods.

For mothers

For friends and family– Offer to make and bring over a meal for the mother and her partner. Bless the meal before taking it to them.

Altars

Many people create altars without even knowing that is what they are doing. Most often this takes place on a shelf, the top of a dresser or windowsill, or perhaps in the garden or a special place in the wilderness. An altar is created by gathering and placing together symbols, art, poems, a candle, or any trinket that reminds you of the experience you are intending to honor and heal.

Alters can be temporary and changing, or more permanent. Over time as healing takes place, the objects can be placed in a special box and stored for remembrance.

Light a Candle

One of the simplest and most beautiful ways to honor miscarriage is by lighting a candle. The flame is representative of the eternal life of the soul. Say a prayer while lighting the candle.

Write a Poem or Letter to Your Baby

You don’t have to be a poet or even a good writer to get your point across. These are your words to your baby, the child you are mourning. Let the words flow from you. Set this somewhere you can read it until you are ready and time moves you to a new phase of your life. Getting feelings out on paper, rather than bottling them up, can be a pillar on the healing journey.

Song

I have used song as way to honor loss for years. I am not sure where I learned this song or who wrote it, but it is one I love and sing with my children, to honor the passing of a soul.

Music is profoundly healing. Find a song you love, play it, listen to it, sing it. If you are musically inclined, you may even wish to write your own song.

Jewelry

Adornment with a pregnancy loss necklace, bracelet, or ring is a beautiful and elegant way to honor the loss of a baby at any stage. Do a search on the internet for pregnancy loss jewelry and many websites will come up. Etsy has some really beautiful jewelry that can be customized. Many of these online shops have gemstones to represent the month the loss took place. Jewelry is an expression of the beauty in life.

Plant Something

Growing something can be extremely healing. A tree, bush, flower, herb garden, seeds, seedling, any of these will do. Depending on the season, indoor or outdoor, growing a plant in honor of your loss is a way to bring the vibrancy of life and loss together.

Late term pregnancy loss
For couples that experience a stillbirth, rituals for healing may take place in the form of dressing the baby, taking photos with the baby, keeping special blankets and mementos from pregnancy and the brief time with baby. In addition to a funeral, cremation, and/or celebration of life, taking time to honor a stillbirth can be honored in any of the above ways as well.

Artist Amy Swagman has a beautiful painting she created to honor infant loss. You can see that here…

Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep provides photography sessions for couples experiencing the loss of a baby. Learn more about their services here…

Share your story with others
Know that if you have experienced a pregnancy loss, no matter how far along you were, you are not alone. Sometimes sharing your story with a counselor, close friend, or at our Natural Fertility Community may help you process what you are going through and help you move forward.

I leave you with this…

I honor all that is
I honor my tender heart
I honor all the mothers who have experienced pregnancy loss
I honor all the souls of the babies that have moved on in this life
I honor all the families touched by pregnancy loss
I honor the mystery of life and death
I recognize the beauty in my life
I honor my inner strength that helps to keep me moving forward

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About the Author

Dalene Barton - Certified Herbalist, Birth Doula

Dalene Barton - Certified Herbalist, Birth Doula

Practicing natural health and herbalism for over 18 years, Dalene received her training and herbal certification under the guidance of Lynn Albers at Yarmony Mt. Herbal College in Colorado in 2000. She went on to become a Certified Birth Doula at Birthingway College of Midwifery in Portland, Oregon in 2007. As a Birth Doula, Dalene has helped to bring many new lives in to this world. Dalene has written 280+ fertility articles and with her vast array of herbal and holistic healing knowledge has helped 1000's of women on their journey to Motherhood.

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