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We are at a point in the year when you may be invited to more social outings, parties, celebrations and holiday gatherings. How do you handle the emotions of infertility and not being able to conceive when you’re with family members who are anxious for you to have a baby and grow your family, or with friends/acquaintances who have questions? This video was shared live. Download the Instagram App to watch our live broadcasts!
We have this idea of how the holidays are supposed to be; joyous, sparkly, filled with family and friends. Many of us feel obligated to and do spend more time with family and friends, which can feel overwhelming especially when battling infertility. When preparing to be with people who don’t quite understand what you’re going through, or why your desire is so strong to keep having tests or try IVF yet another time, etc., preparing an explanation for why (and then trying to explain) can be emotionally draining. Sometimes family doesn’t understand and some questions may come off as inconsiderate. Remember that they cannot know firsthand what you are going through and how you feel!
We know just how stressful infertility can be, especially during the holidays, at parties, family meals, baby showers, etc. Here are a few tips to help you through them…
1. Try to be prepared as best you can. Ask a trusted family member to help you redirect conversations. Think about positive answers to some questions that you anticipate getting. Share with your family that this time of year offers you a chance to focus on someone else’s needs instead of your own.
2. It is okay to decline an invite to an event. If you are dreading a holiday event. it is fine to not go. It is okay to be people who do understand what you are going through as opposed to those who do not, or to stay home.
3. Engage tools to help yourself through your emotions. Try meditation, writing positive affirmations, and cultivating love and kindness by writing down what you are grateful and happy for. There may be a Flower Essences for emotional well-being that resonates with you. It is important to work on this not only through the holidays, but through your entire journey. We hold onto emotions in our body within our organs and muscles and doing so can hinder efforts to be well.
4. If you need support ask for it. Reach out to a friend, sibling, parent, a counselot, or The Natural Fertility Company… we are here for you! There is also a support group called at Resolve.org through the National Infertility Association that could be something to look into as well.
A quote that I came across that I think will resonate with you:
“Try to remember who you were before infertility. Find her or him again and remember to continue seeking her or him out whenever the darkness starts to take over.”
With that, I hope that you feel empowered to do whatever you need to do to be in an emotionally happy place this holiday season. If you want more information about the techniques I shared with you please reach out to us.